Trolling on Religion

October 23, 2009 writer01 Leave a comment

Especially in online forums and comments, religion-bashing is not uncommon. And when it happens, they make sure you hear about it.

There was news recently about a father who killed his daughter over cigarettes.

A Singaporean man has gone on trial charged with murdering his 23-month-old daughter in a fit of rage after he caught her playing with his cigarettes, court officials said Tuesday.

Sallehan Allaudin, 26, is accused of fatally beating his daughter Nikie in January ahead of her second birthday, causing her to die of a ruptured vein. If convicted, he could face death by hanging.

Clearly, the name alludes that the man is Muslim. But more than that, as to his religious practices, observances, adherence to Islamic law, etc., is only speculation. But if one can base on the fact that he smokes, it may somewhat give an indication of his level of observance on the Islamic scholars’ ruling on smoking.

Nevertheless, news like these spread fast in forums, especially when an ethnic or religious group can be pinpointed for blame.  But to blame a religion for the act of one really can be testing at times. Such as this one here:

Internet Troll SgCulprit with an Islamic-sounding name? Blame it on the religion of course! (Source)

Try as you might, you may find that logic doesn’t dictate this kind of argument. More likely than not, your argument is valid. But come to think of it, I don’t even think retorts like these can be termed as argument; “abuse” is a more correct terminology.

Still, you find that your opponent’s over-generalization, stereotyping, selective quote and blatant disregard of reason endlessly bugs you to no remorse.

Perhaps it’s time to detach from the emotional ad hominem and simply disregard the troll.

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The (Long) Road to Racial Understanding

October 19, 2009 writer01 Leave a comment

Forget about racial/religious harmony. To reach that pinnacle of give-and-take, basic understanding must take place. This, one assume, is basically a given in Singapore; most people from other groups know that the void deck is being used by Malays to hold marriages, Chinese for funerals, and Indians to hold birthdays and other gatherings.

But we are in trouble if that is all we know, especially if we are part of the organizing personnels involved in multi-racial multi-religion events.

For instance, I’ve been to events which were supposed to provide lunch and dinner for the participants, of which include Muslims. The organizers know a bit about Muslim diet; we aren’t allowed to consume pork. So they prepared chicken wraps and salads. In such cases, the chicken is avoided, and the salads usually come to the rescue.

No Pork No Lard ≠ Halal

True, Muslims can’t eat pork, and it’s no rocket science that chicken isn’t pork. Unfortunately, another aspect of the Muslim diet which most people do not know is that all meats must be slaughtered in a specific manner, thus the term halal meat. Alcohol should also not be served, and that includes tiramisu.

The importance of details in planning such events are so vital that most attendees just assume that their needs are catered to. Here in Singapore, organizers are usually aware of the particularities of those involved, and just choose to conveniently cater from halal-certified providers, or go vegan.

By the look of things in Singapore, I would say most passed the food test, except for the tiramisu which I really suspect isn’t alcohol-free. But, they’ve still got a long way to go.

Firstly, the “no pork no lard” phrase has just gotta go. It may work well for someone who has allergy or adverse reaction to pork, but it is sometimes confusing for those who doesn’t understand that “no pork no lard” ≠ halal. Though one may not entirely fault the shopowners (usually bakeries which doesn’t use no pork/lard but uses non-halal sausages etc) as they are merely stating facts, the Muslim consumer should also be more aware of his decisions.

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“No pork no lard” ≠ halal! Religion is not to be dictated by the rumbling stomach. (Image credit)

Such diluted understanding is prevalent here in Singapore, but apparently in other countries. Take this biscuit produced in Korea, sold here in Singapore.

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The highlighted part actually translates into: Free from pork products and its derivatives. While this may put some hearts at rest, other may question does the E-4xx emulsifiers contain gelatin from non-halal beef? Here’s what the local religious body’s got to say on the matter.

Food claims such as ‘No Pork, No Lard’ do not necessarily imply that the food is truly Halal. Halal food must not contain and/or come into direct contact with non-Halal items. Examples of these include alcohol, pork and meat deriving from sheep which are not slaughtered in accordance with the Islamic Law.

Calendar and Events

Besides food, some religion also possesses their own calendar system. Nothing too hard to ignore, as major religious events are widely reported here, such as the Deepavali, Hari Raya, Chinese New Year, and Thaipusam. Event organizers should therefore take note of the dates, else the targeted crowd may not come.

This is a banner of what is supposed to be “Racial Harmony Sports Day”. At first glance, all seems to be okay; everyone from all races are invited to participate – a wonderful thought.

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The true test of endurance: Sports + fasting.

One little issue though, the date 13/09/2009 is the final week of the fasting month of Ramadan, prior to the Muslim Hari Raya celebration.

One may point out that I’m being too picky by pointing these out, but in reality, a fasting person would do as much to conserve his energy as even a drop of water is not allowed. Furthermore, for the event organizers to call it “Racial Harmony” is unfortunately oxymoronic if it is not suited to the racial groups’ observances.

And here’s a reader’s letter from today’s paper on Deepavali. I share his thoughts on the issue.

Diwali is essentially known as the festival of lights, as it marks the return of King Rama to reclaim his throne after a 14-year exile in the forest, and his victory over Ravana, a legendary evil king who abducted his wife Sita, and lights were put up in celebration.

It is also celebrated by Sikhs, who commemorate the return of Guru Hargobind, who had been imprisoned with 52 other princes at Fort Gwalior by Emperor Jahangir.

It is a major symbolic festival, but the proper greeting should be simply ‘Happy Diwali’ or ‘Happy Deepavali’, and more good times ahead, not ‘Happy New Year’.

While I do appreciate the nice gesture from my non-Muslim friends when they send me greetings on Hari Raya, it slightly bugs me that most of them choose to greet by saying “Happy New Year”. Hari Raya is not a new year. It falls on the 10th month of the lunar calendar. That’s like wishing someone a happy new year in October.

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Each culture also has their own name structure convention. Chinese and Western names usually have a <given-name><family-name> convention (or vice-versa). Malay and Indian names (at least in Singapore) meanwhile doesn’t include family names, their names consist of <given-name> <father’s name>.

I had naively expected this to be common cultural knowledge, knowing that the word bin and binte in the Malay/Arabic naming convention correlates with the Indian s/o and d/o. Well, I thought wrong.

Here’s a passage from the local daily, which mentions a politician’s name. The politician, a Malay,  is Hawazi Daipi. According to the Malay naming convention, he should be called by his first name, and not his last name; his last name is actually his father’s name and not his family name.

Apparently the reporter doesn’t get it, and reported here:

…Senior Parliamentary Secretary for Manpower Hawazi Daipi in Parliament on Monday afternoon.

Mr Daipi was responding to questions by MP for Tanjong Pagar GRC Baey Yam Keng who asked what help do bosses who can’t afford to pay the full medical bills of their maids get. He also asked if the Government would consider capping the maximum liability of bosses.

Mr Daipi said to reduce the burden of these large medical bills…

Sloppy, as a quick google would have produced his CV and given clues to his ’surname’.

But this example is not a rarity. I have been many times, in situations when formality ensues, called by my ’surname’; I don’t have one, so they were actually calling me by my father’s name. So much so that I got used to it.

In fact, my previous workplace requires the work email address to be a combination fo the first letter of my first name, and my last name in full. Which in this case will be x_FATHERSNAME@xxxxx.com. It truly was irritating. My request to have it changed wasn’t accepted. I do not mind if I actually do have a surname, but I simply don’t.

And it sounds really idiotic to have my email address based on my father’s name instead of my own. Just what can I do then?

Understanding, then Harmony

Until we have these issues being understood by everyone of different racial and religious background, the word “racial/religious harmony” will amost always be viewed like some propaganda horn blown by from the top. True, to an extent is does coerce a nervous and artificial form of tolerance, with the main objective of avoiding trouble and confrontations, while gulping down the occasional uneasiness.

But when one look closely, these trivial issues are not really so trivial, they form the very basis of harmony. How can a society truly achieve this “harmony” if it doesn’t even know what to call its neighbour? Or what to serve when hosting them? Or when to hold meet-ups or gatherings?

Culture is deeply rooted for generations. Religion is a way of life. They influence names and name structure, possesses their own calendar system, practices, and rituals.

In the end, one must remember that religion and culture is not just all about food.

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An Idiot’s Guide to Ramadan

October 1, 2009 writer01 Leave a comment

Yes, Ramadan just passed, but this is still good.

Excerpt:

Ramadan, What does this mean?

Ramadan is the 9th month of the Islamic calendar.  It’s when Muslims all over the world spend 30 days observing fast and bettering themselves in principles of faith.

Observing fast?  Is that something to do with running, then?

No.

Oh, what is it then?

Observing fast, or fasting, is when a person abstains (or keeps away) from eating and drinking.

Some people call it ‘Ramadam’, what’s that all about?

The month is correctly known as ‘Ramadhan’ or ‘Ramadan’, the latter being the more anglicised version.  ‘Ramadam’ is incorrect and is mistakenly used. ‘Ramadam-dam-dam’, as pronounced by Ali G, is also wrong but you probably guessed that already.

Courtesy of the BBC (link).

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Excerpt 1:

Ramadan Really Means…

October 1, 2009 writer01 Leave a comment

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Ramadan comes and goes. The month in which able-bodied Muslims are obligated to fast from dawn till dusk has passed, but will reappear in the next (lunar) year, as has been the cycle for the past 1,428 years. Yes, it’s 1430 years after the Hijrah now, but Ramadan was first obligated 2 years after the Hijra (some say in the month of Sya’ban, 2H/622CE).

For most people, when you ask them whether fasting makes them better, they’ll almost always agree. They will say that abstaining from all types of food and drinks makes them a better, stronger person. For others, it made them shed a few pounds (only to bulk up again with the Eid festivities).

But some of these answers may be quite vague, and especially from an outsider’s point of view, it is difficult to see the so-called spiritual benefits. But trust me they’re there.

If you’ve been fasting fasting for years, or just starting to get used to fasting, or trying to understand how not eating can make you a better person, here’s my take on what people mean when they say Ramadan makes them “better”.

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1. “Ramadan makes me empathize with the less fortunate.”

Very true, also very obvious. With millions around the world having difficulty to finding food, and even more so freshwater, the fact that you are not allowed to drink a single drop of water in this hot, sunny climate makes you appreciate that even more seriously.

And after one full month of not consuming anything during the day, Muslims also must give a mandatory sum of money (zakat/tithe) to the poor.

Philosophy:

You feel their suffering (through fasting), now do something about it (through donation).

ramadan27Visually impaired Palestinian students read verses of the Koran, Islam’s holiest book, written in Braille. (Image credit)

2. “Ramadan helps me to focus.”

The line is not hard to draw for this one. Most likely than not, what is meant is the decreased focus on food (you can’t eat or drink during the day), makes for an exercise in objectivity; focus more on what you are doing, and not what you are feeling.

For those who say they can’t concentrate without food, or when they’re hungry, this is an observance especially catered to temper the physical body to such conditions. 14 hours without food is nothing extreme, but definitely gives you a slight boost especially when thinking of whiny people who can’t seem to stop munching.

Philosophy:

Mind over matter.

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3. “Ramadan makes me a better/stronger person.”

The most popular. Or a better phrase would be, “Ramadan shows me how much I can do, with less.”

I’m sure a lot of people actually lose weight during Ramadan (mine is around 5% this year, hooray!). And without any side-effects nor illness whatsoever, the loss of weight is a sheer example of how much we – as humans – are consuming on a daily basis.

Food: During Ramadan, the amazing body somehow manages to survive on 2 meals a day; one small one before dawn, and one during sunset.

Sleep: During Ramadan, just like many others, Muslims sleep lesser than normal. Even when going to sleep at the same every night, most Muslims wake up at about 5am to eat the pre-dawn meal (sahur) and perform the dawn (Subuh) prayers, then taking a 1-2 hour nap before going to work.  The sleep pattern is disrupted, yet the body copes with it.

Exercise & Discipline: Less food, less sleep, and every night, Muslims are encouraged to perform the tarawih prayers. It takes less then 30 minutes, done every night during Ramadan, and burns the extra calories too. Also during Ramadan, most would read roughly 20 pages of the Qur’an daily, so as the complete reading the holy book in that month.

In addition, Muslims are supposed to be at the peak of spiritual health in Ramadan. Meaning, controlling the eyes from gazing at that lady with a low-cut dress, the tongue from gossiping, the ears from listening to mindless songs and idle talk, etc. It’s about getting the soul to control the physical body, and not the other way round.

If you observe Ramadan, you’ll see that everything is jam-packed; you do more, you consume less. In the midst of all these, it is easy for one to realize how much of their daily lives is filled with non-essential entertainment and pleasure.

Fasting does indeed make you stronger. Stronger to get off the lazy bum and do something worthwhile, or help others, or read more. It resonates more when the Muslim sees himself as a consumer, to eat little (and not waste), to reduce consumption of not only food, but electricity, petrol, and the world’s resources.

Philosophy:

If something as essential as food and drink can be controlled, the non-essential desires can be reined in too.

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4. “I fast because my mom/dad told me to.”

If you see Muslim kids fasting, it teaches them not to be a wuss when they grow up.

The perfect character builder.

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Singtel Ad in Mosques: Still there

September 10, 2009 writer01 Leave a comment

This is an update from a previous post, regarding Singtel’s ad in mosques.

Apparently now they’ve changed the ad a bit, obviously in observance of the upcoming Hari Raya. Here’s what it looks like now.

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Caption reads: “Celebrate happiness together. Connect with your beloved family this Hari Raya with Singtel.” The Qur’anic verse on the right now had been replaced with a hadith.

While it is relatively better, considering one of the ladies in the ad is properly covered up, the other is still not.

Nevertheless, my biggest annoyance is still: What is an advertisement from Singtel doing in my mosque? And I wonder who exactly profits from these billboards cropping up all over Singapore’s mosques.

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Kerubik? Kerupat?

September 10, 2009 writer01 Leave a comment

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“We come in peace,” declared Professor Rubik’s mutant relatives.

The green cube above was spotted on Dell’s flash ads in some local websites, such as channelnewsasia.com and Ebay Singapore. Initially, without context, one would think that it mimics some kind of Gamma-infected Rubik’s cube.

Alas, it is but a misrepresentation of the humble ketupat. What’s a ketupat, you ask? It’s that thing (read: rice dumpling) that my family weaves in the days prior to Hari Raya, for our own gastronomical benefit. Made of coconut (or palm?) leaves, it intricately weaved with no gaps whatsoever, filled with rice, and boiled for hours to produce a rich tasting main dish,  accompanied with rendang, sambal goreng, and the such.

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The real McCoys in action (Image credit 1, 2, 3)

In all my life, never have I seen a perfectly cubic ketupat, be it in the real or virtual world. Not only is it impossible to weave, but a symmetrically manufactured ketupat with exactly 54 squares on 6 precisely measured sides is not something you’d rush to sink your teeth into.

I can only imagine that the ketupat in the Dell ad was outsourced to some foreign company void of regional cultural understanding. That, or a Primary 2 school project of ketupat in 3D.

Here’s a screenshot of the ad:

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But hey, at least they got the background ketupat correct:

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Questions on Tarawih and Witr

September 4, 2009 writer01 Leave a comment

In Ramadan, the night is filled with prayers and devotion to the Creator. After performing the terawih/tarawih prayers (صلاة التراويح), witr (صلاة الوتر) is the usually the final prayer of the night. Here are some quick pointers.

1. When can I  perform tarawih?

Anytime between Isya’ and Subuh. (Source)

2. How many rakaat is tarawih performed?

Any number, as long as it is in multiples of two. But 8 or 20 is preferred. (Source 1, 2)

3. Must I perform tarawih in the mosque?

While praying in jama’ah in a mosque is better, one can also do it at home. (Source)

4. Minimum rakaat of witr?

One. But three is preferred. (Source)

5. Maximum rakaat of witr?

Eleven. (Source)

6. When do I perform the qunut for witr in Ramadan?

According to the al-Shafi’e mazhab, on the second half of Ramadan, i.e. starting on the 15th night onwards. (Source 1, 2)

7. After praying witr, can I perform other prayers in the same night?

Yes.

Long answer: (Translated from source)

Originally, one concludes that his prayers at night with the witr, following the saying of the Prophet ﷺ:

اجعلوا آخر صلاتكم بالليل وتراً

“Make your last prayer at night witr.”

- Bukhari et al.

If a person prayed witr and following that he intends to pray more, there is no harm in doing so. But he shouldn’t repeat the witr, as the Prophet ﷺ said:

لا وتران في ليلة

“No two witr in one night.” (I.e. do not perform witr twice in a night)

- Narrated by Abu Dawood et al.; categorized sahih by al-Albani

Al-Nawawi said in al-Majmu’ (المجموع):

إذا أوتر ثم أراد أن يصلي نافلة، أم غيرها في الليل، جاز بلا كراهة، ولا يعيد الوتر

“If a person performed the witr, and then he wants to pray the nafilah (i.e. sunnah prayers), or any other prayers at night, it is permissible and not makruh, (but) he should not repeat the witr.”

Meanwhile if he purposely performed the witr earlier in the night, while knowing that he will perform other prayer later at night, that is still allowed, though it is considered makruh, as was stated by the Malikis.

The reason for it being makruh is the intent (to perform the later prayers) even before starting the witr (knowing that witr should be performed last).

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اجعلوا آخر صلاتكم بالليل وتراًاجعلوا آخر صلاتكم بالليل وتراً

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Cover Up Ladies, Men are Stupid!

September 4, 2009 writer01 Leave a comment

Debates over the hijab and aurah/aurat have been going for ages.

For those who are unconvinced on the obligation to cover themselves up, here’s another reason to do so. For the sake of men’s intelligence.

Talking to an attractive woman really can make a man lose his mind, according to a new study.

…[R]esearch shows men who spend even a few minutes in the company of an attractive woman perform less well in tests designed to measure brain function than those who chat to someone they do not find attractive.

Researchers who carried out the study, published in the Journal of Experimental and Social Psychology, think the reason may be that men use up so much of their brain function or ‘cognitive resources’ trying to impress beautiful women, they have little left for other tasks.

The findings have implications for the performance of men who flirt with women in the workplace, or even exam results in mixed-sex schools.

But aren’t men supposed to cover up too? Won’t women be affected if she is swooned by the opposite sex?

Women, however, were not affected by chatting to a handsome man.

This may be simply because men are programmed by evolution to think more about mating opportunities.

(Source)

Of course, men have always been reminded to lower their gaze and avoid unnecessary attraction when in company of the ladies:

قُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ ذَلِكَ أَزْكَى لَهُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا يَصْنَعُونَ

“Tell the male mu’min (believers) to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allâh is All-Aware of what they do.”

(An-Nuur:30)

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Further reading: نصيحة تعين المسلم والمسلمة على غض البصر

Playing Soccer = No Need to Fast?

September 1, 2009 writer01 Leave a comment

Last week, it was reported in the locay Malay daily that a fatwa by the Dar al-Ifta, the fatwa body for Egypt, allows soccer players to break their fast.

Institusi agama tertinggi Mesir telah membenarkan pemain pasukan bola sepak negara itu tidak berpuasa agar dapat membuat persiapan bagi satu perlawanan antarabangsa.

Menurut fatwa yang dikeluarkan oleh institusi agama tertinggi Mesir, Dar al-Ifta, para pemain ‘dibenarkan berbuka puasa’ agar ibadah itu tidak menjelas latihan mereka bagi membuat persiapan menghadapi pertandingan sedunia itu, kata jurucakap Persatuan Bola Sepak Mesir, Encik Alaa Abdel Aziz.

…Fatwa itu menjelaskan ’seorang pemain yang tertakluk di bawah kontraknya dengan sebuah kelab, bertanggungjawab menjalankan tugasnya dan jika pekerjaan itu sumber mata pencariannya dan jika beliau perlu mengambil bahagian dalam pertandingan semasa bulan Ramadan dan dengan berpuasa ia boleh menjejas kelakonannya, beliau lantas dibenarkan berbuka’.

…Fatwa itu bagaimanapun menimbulkan kemarahan sekumpulan cendekiawan agama, Barisan Cendekiawan Azhar.

…’Bermain bola ialah satu permainan. Ia bukan sebahagian penting kehidupan yang mewajarkan seseorang itu berbuka puasa semasa Ramadan,’ kata kumpulan itu.

For those who are interested, here is the fatwa and its counter-statements from other scholars: (As translated from source)

* Dar al-Ifta’s Fatwa: “Any employee or laborer who faces difficulty by fasting or is weakened at work, as stipulated in the Hanafi jurisprudence (فقه الحنفية) that whoever is employed for his service to a known duration – which is verified here as both play and work contracts – and then comes (the fasting month of) Ramadan, and he is affected by fasting at work, he may be allowed to break his fast even if he has enough, with emphasis that this provision is for matches that are inevitable for the player.

* Reply from al-Azhar Scholars Front: “Playing football is not a necessity of life which allows relief or dispensation (يرخص) of breaking of fast, and it is not among the matters which are considered to be burdens (تكاليف) of this religion, since everybody has the right to play (soccer) as entertainment, and not as an occupation or job.” The Front mentioned that playing is not a message (رسالة) and not a function which the law allows anyone to perform as a livelihood, (especially) one which Allah has sent no authority on.

The Front said in its statement: “The matter is serious and should not to be undertaken with complacency or humour. The dilution/homogenization (التمييع) (of religious law?) is the most serious issue our religion is suffering from now, and this dilution/homogenization is the most deadly weapon that is being used in fighting today. The capital of a Muslim is his religion – as said by Abdullah bin Al-Mubarak – it is not to be left behind in journeys, nor to be entrusted to men. “

* Sheikh Yusuf al-Qaradawi: Islam does not allow the breaking of fast for laborers who face hardship. Instead,  it is clear and explicit that the breaking of fast is only allowed in cases of travel and illness.

* The opinion of Sheikh Khalid al-Jundi: It is not permissible to place soccer above the Shari’ah, instead the universe should adhere to the Shari’ah. I really do not know whether that is the compromise that we pursue together, and I wonder how Al-Azhar issues such a fatwa which is extraneous to the law.

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Insulting Hinduism, and Islam too

September 1, 2009 writer01 Leave a comment

KUALA LUMPUR, Malaysia — Dozens of Malaysian Muslims paraded Friday with the head of a cow, a sacred animal in Hinduism, in a dramatic protest against the proposed construction of a Hindu temple in their neighborhood.

The unusual protest by some 50 people in Shah Alam, the capital of Selangor state, raises new fears of racial tensions in this multiethnic Muslim-majority country where Hindus comprise about 7 percent of the 27 million population.

The demonstrators who marched from a nearby mosque after Friday prayers dumped the cow head outside the gates of the state government headquarters. Selangor adjoins Kuala Lumpur.

(Source 1, 2, 3)

Keen to insult another religion, they are perhaps unaware that by going against clearly stated rules in the Qur’an, they are insulting their own religion too. The demonstrators (with claims of hijack or otherwise) are seemingly unaware of what the Qur’an teaches:

وَلا تَسُبُّوا الَّذِينَ يَدْعُونَ مِنْ دُونِ اللَّهِ فَيَسُبُّوا اللَّهَ عَدْوًا بِغَيْرِ عِلْمٍ كَذَلِكَ زَيَّنَّا لِكُلِّ أُمَّةٍ عَمَلَهُمْ ثُمَّ إِلَى رَبِّهِمْ مَرْجِعُهُمْ فَيُنَبِّئُهُمْ بِمَا كَانُوا يَعْمَلُونَ

“And insult not those who worship besides Allâh, lest they insult Allâh wrongfully without knowledge. Thus we have made fair­seeming to each people its own doings; then to their Lord is their return and He shall then inform them of all that they used to do.”

(Al-An’aam:108)

Even since the time of Musa (Moses), the same command had been in place. In the face of the most stubborn and violent Fir’aun (pharoah), Allah had declared to the Prophets Musa and Harun:

اذْهَبَا إِلَى فِرْعَوْنَ إِنَّهُ طَغَى

فَقُولا لَهُ قَوْلا لَيِّنًا لَعَلَّهُ يَتَذَكَّرُ أَوْ يَخْشَى

“Go, both of you, to Fir’aun (Pharaoh). Verily, he has transgressed (all bounds In disbelief and disobedience and behaved as an arrogant and as a tyrant).

And speak to him mildly, perhaps he may accept admonition or fear Allâh.”

(Taahaa:44)

All these are based on the graciousness, softness, and kindness that encompass what a Muslim must embody and act with:

ادْعُ إِلَى سَبِيلِ رَبِّكَ بِالْحِكْمَةِ وَالْمَوْعِظَةِ الْحَسَنَةِ وَجَادِلْهُمْ بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ إِنَّ رَبَّكَ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِمَنْ ضَلَّ عَنْ سَبِيلِهِ وَهُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِالْمُهْتَدِينَ

“Invite (all) to the way of Your Lord with wisdom and preaching; and argue with them in ways that are best (and most gracious): for Your Lord knows best who has strayed from His path, and He is Best Aware who receive guidance.”

(Al-Nahl:125)

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Additional reading:

سبب نزول قوله تعالى: ولا تسبوا الذين يدعون من دون الله